“Balance ~ never let success go to your head, and never let failure go to your heart”
Some days you feel like you’ve got things figured out, and other days you don’t. Today was one of those days – there were ups, there were downs, and I found myself emotionally drained with negativity and the needs of others, unsure of my effectiveness at being an instructional leader , upset with myself for not having patience with my 4 busy boys, and ready to crawl under the covers and wave the white flag.
After taking a few minutes to feel sorry for myself (and apologizing to my kids for being so crabby), I thought about some of the things I have learned lately, and I took some time to read words of wisdom from some amazing leaders who inspire me with their dedication, wisdom and willingness to share their journey (@fryed, #ossemooc, @gcouros). I took the isolation that I was feeling, and I reached out to my connected community and set aside my feelings of doubt in not being what others need and spent some time connecting. I reflected on our #mysteryskype today with our Gr. 1/2 class, I thought about our new student who comes to us with many mysteries and sadness, and I appreciated the positive interactions I had with some amazing educators and students in our school.
At #selno, George Couros shared this picture and it stuck with me – success is hard work; and with hard work comes the need for balance. But how do you find that balance – the balance of being there for others professionally, for others personally and for yourself so that at the end of the day, you know that you tried your best, that you hopefully impacted someone, and that you were able to connect with something that pushed you farther. Something I have learned lately is that we are all human with strengths as well as flaws – but we can be very unforgiving and judgmental without realizing how it impacts others. How do we achieve a balance so that we are not affected by the challenges, but rather motivated by them; how do we show others that relationships are important and not be impacted when others are critical, and how do we balance work, home, personal, professional, social and self?
There are so many positive, inspiring things that can happen in a day, and there are people that leave joy and inspiration long after they’ve gone, but how do you hold on to that when faced with challenges, upset people, and feelings of doubt in being an effective instructional leader, a friend, a wife, a mother …
“Problems arise in that one has to find a balance between what people need from you and what you need for yourself”